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What if a baby we call “colicky,” “fussy,” or “difficult to soothe” is trying to tell us something?

In this episode of Mom’s Brain Is A Coffee Stain | Parenting Teens, Mom Life & Real Conversations, Kayla and Crystal sit down with Kenneth Moench, licensed massage therapist, founder of the Moench Method, and author of Every Baby Hurts.

Drawing from more than three decades of experience working with the human body, Ken shares the personal and professional experiences that led him to question some commonly accepted ideas about infant crying and discomfort.

After working with his own grandchildren, Ken began exploring whether physical tension and positioning before birth could play a role in how some babies feel and behave after birth. Those observations eventually became the foundation for Every Baby Hurts.

Throughout the conversation, Ken challenges parents to consider the difference between something being “normal”and being “optimal”—while encouraging more research into the theories behind his work.

In This Episode We Discuss:

• Ken's experience as a sleep-deprived father of four
• The experiences with his grandchildren that inspired Every Baby Hurts
• Why Ken believes some infant crying and fussiness may be misunderstood
• What Ken calls “pre-birth postural deficits”
• Fetal positioning, body tension, fascia, and movement
• The difference between “normal” and “optimal”
• Colic, sleep, swaddling, and difficult-to-soothe babies
• How an inconsolable baby can affect exhausted parents and the entire household
• The principles behind the Moench Method
• Ken's work with infants, children, adults, and athletes
• Why he believes more research and clinical trials are needed
• Shifting from frustration toward curiosity, empathy, and compassion

❤️ A Reminder for Parents

One of Ken's biggest messages isn't about having all the answers.

It's about changing the way we respond when we don't.

When a baby is crying and nothing seems to work, Ken encourages parents to move away from “Why won't you stop crying?” and instead become curious about “What are you trying to tell me?”

Because exhausted parents deserve compassion, too—and sometimes changing the way we look at the situation can change the way we respond.

⚠️ Important Note

This episode shares Kenneth Moench’s personal experiences, professional observations, theories, and perspectives regarding infant discomfort and bodywork. The conversation is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Concerns about an infant’s crying, feeding, sleep, development, pain, or health should be discussed with a qualified pediatric healthcare professional.

Guest Information

Kenneth Moench
Author | Founder of Moench Method | Licensed Massage Therapist

📘 Author of: Every Baby Hurts

📚 Book:
https://a.co/d/02BthCrs

🌐 Website:
https://moenchmethodbodywork.com/

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📱 Instagram: @moenchmethodbodywork
▶️ YouTube: @moenchmethodbodywork4805

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